A couple of weeks ago I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about moving. I know she has moved but not hours away from where she grew up. I was telling her how stressful our latest move was. She replied moving is not that stressful.
So how is moving stressful? Here are some of the things you will never know about moving if you have never moved an hour or more away from where you have ever lived.
I tried to tell her that moving can be super stressful when you move state to state because of all the rules you have to follow. One of the things that was stressful for us was getting our new state ID’s (Driver’s License). In addition to that there was getting the titles and registrations transfered – and the required inspections. In the state of Pennsylvania, car registrations are supposed to be transferred within 20 days of moving. In order to do that you need a valid PA driver’s license and insurance. Where we live, our local drivers license center is only open two days a week and it is 25 minutes away – and only takes cash or check. Let’s just say those opening days were crazy, because you also have to have proof of residence – which for a pastor’s family – living in a parsonage can be difficult sometimes. Utility bills count as proof of residency, but as pastors – the church pays those – so they don’t come in our name. When we were looking for a new church, we were hoping to move to somewhere that had the same bank, so we didn’t have to change banks. Our bank in Virginia now has a presence in Pennsylvania, but doesn’t quite reach to where we are. Banks have similar rules – due to the Patriot act.
If you’ve never moved away from somewhere you have called home – you may never experience some of these, especially if you only move from one house to another in the same general area – say moving across the Shenandoah Valley, like we did when we first moved to Staunton.
When you finally get done with the all the above, that’s when the real fun begins. When you move you have to find things you need every day – grocery store, doctors, hairstylist, the best places to eat, etc. – the things that we take for granted every day, that we need to get everything done.
Then there is the loneliness that you have when you move and leave all your friends and do not know any one where you move. It is hard to fit in especially when you move to a small town where everyone has lived there all their lives. It is in these little town it is really hard to fit in. Basically, when you move you must start you with your life. Trying to find where you will fit in and make friends.
The good thing is that we are starting to feel more at home. Those first couple weeks were hard as we got acclimated to our new environment. Yes, we still miss our friends from Virginia. This week we even got a nice note – in fact, all this week, we have been getting encouraging notes – from all directions. God must have known we needed encouragement. We are getting settled into our new digs – Dale just painted our office and it looks really nice.
Thank you for all your prayers during our transition.